Friday, October 23, 2009

Muddled Ideals

So I’d like to start off by saying that October is being very strange. The snow and uber coldness then it gets all warm(er) and the leaves start to change colors… then it snows again. Well actually today it was raining the morning, then slushdropping (a mix between rain and snow- yes, I made up that word. It’s copyrighted) in the early afternoon, which turned to snow in the evening. At which time I was wearing flip flops. Smart, right? Whatever, I’m in Wisconsin now and I grew up in Minnesota; I do what I want. :)

Anyway, on to the actual topic for today.

This month, I really didn’t have a clue what to talk about. Honestly, I was sitting here on my bed at 8pm with my brain going, “________________.” Which is not good. So I clambered down (my bed is lofted), pulled out one of my many notebooks and started flipping through (I have this habit of writing down random ideas/bible verses in the middle of a notebook and forgetting about them until a much later time) to see what I might find. First notebook: not much, just last month’s blog. Eh. Not really helpful. I then, however, grabbed the tattered notebook I keep in my bag at all times (just in case) and opened it up carefully (it’s falling apart a bit). What do I find? One verse and three sentences I had written about it.

Can you say peeeeeeeeerfect? It just kinda hit me- I knew it was right. I’ve been wanting to write something about romantic relationships for a while now, but I just didn’t know where to start. While I have a ton of secondhand experience in relationships, I have zero firsthand experience, so it makes it hard to write much of anything with substance. Anyway, this verse is what I found:

“Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and clings to his wife, and they become one flesh.” -Genesis 2:24

This verse, I think, is a wonderful exemplar my views on relationships. Women are a part of men- equals in every way. Men should treat women as themselves; just as holy and pure. A man who treats a woman poorly is treating himself poorly as well.

I know not all guys are jerks- that’s just the stereotype they get a lot of times. Not all women are gentle and kind- that’s the stereotype they get. All types exist everywhere, and there is no getting around that. But I do think that everyone, whether male or female, needs to really take a look at how they treat their significant others. Do you treat them with respect, as you want to be treated yourself, or do you use them just to pass the time? I think one of the biggest problems with today’s society is “fun dating.” I don’t think it’s right to date someone just for the sake of having a boyfriend or girlfriend. The point of dating is to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with- a potential marriage partner. When people date casually it desensitizes them to real feelings, and how they should treat others and be treated.

What I’m trying to say is THINK about your relationships. Are they worth it in the long run? Why are you dating whomever you’re dating? Does it really mean something? It should.


P.S. There is a blog that I *think* spurred me to write down this verse; it’s called “The Rebelution” by two guys, Alex and Brett Harris. This particular entry is about chivalry, and it’s just great. I highly suggest reading it:

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